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Relationship Status:: Married

About Me:: 31 year old Father of a 1 year old girl.

Website:: http://www.wagenhauser.com

Number of Kids: 1

Zip Code: 46038

What is your favorite part of being a dad?: The smile I get from the joy I experience in my children

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At 7:52am on September 25, 2008, Tommy Wags said…: 1) You can't be denied giving up your parental rights. However, if you give up your parental rights and your ex is not remarried, all you loose is the time you get to see your children and you are still going to be financially obligated for child support. In my case, she and her new husband adopted the kids, which terminated child support. I would say that if your ex is not remarried and is not offering an adoption, then don't give up your parental rights. You will not gain anything from it.

2) No, they cannot throw you in a jail for giving up your parental rights. They can, however, throw you in jail for non-payment of child support. If you give up parental rights, then your child support obligation will raise since you get a credit for the time you spend with your kids. Again, giving up parental rights does not terminate child support, it just terminates your involvement in your children's lives.

You need to find a lawyer. Its the only way.

At 10:46pm on September 24, 2008, Dazed And Confused said…: Hey thanks for the response back and you have no ideahow much more relieved i am that there is someone else who has delt with just about the same thing that i am rite now. but i have a few questions so hoipefully you might be able to answer them. well if you dont know, my childeren are in the system because there was this one time when i spanked my 4 year old just minutes befor the x wife got home from work and she saw a red mark on his leg and told everyone she knew that i beat my son and my other 2 kids and so since she has a vivd imagination her story was of course way out of wack, and she acted like she never did anything wrong ever and lied about spanking the kids and so on and so forth she thinks that she is lilly white.first questioncan i be denied giving up my parental rites ? 2nd one the court ordered me do do a 26 week dmestic violence class and home based counceling and if i give up my parental rites will they throw me in jail. for just giving up on my kids, will i owe the x anything can she still contact me what is the worst thing that could happen to me by just calling it quits, i dont make a lot of money but i love my job i work at budweiser and cant afford a pot to piss in. so i guess i need legal aid. so what happens when i give up my parental rites ?

At 8:27am on September 24, 2008, Tommy Wags said…: And thanks for the comments on the deck.

At 8:27am on September 24, 2008, Tommy Wags said…: I went through almost an identical situation about 4 years ago. My wife was cheating on me. Now granted, I did the same thing only after I found out about her. But then it was all about me and how I was the bad person. She left. The divorce dragged on for over a year. She was a complete biatch who got a restraining order against me just because she could use it against me in court (based on her lawyer's recommendation). She tried to say that I hurt my kids and physically abused her, when in fact all the police reports showed that she had actually abused me and typically started it. Not once did the police find in her favor, but yet, she is a woman and therefore there is always going to be the assumption by any judge that I, being a man, was in the wrong. After several years of her constant interference with my visitations, teaching the kids to hate me (classic parental alienation syndrome) and both the kids having problems in school and life and it always being blamed on me, I couldn't take it much more. She even went as far as to take the children to several psychologist in the hopes that they would find that I was the cause of their problems. The psychologist never found that I was doing anything wrong and in fact the judge ordered us to seek counseling. Her and her mother tried to get the counselor to remove my visitation. When I was coaching my son's t-ball team, they called the YMCA and said I wasn't morally right to coach and tried to get me removed as the coach. Finally, I made the very difficult choice, after my ex had gotten remarried, to allow her and her new husband to adopt my children and relinquish my parental rights. Many people may not agree with my decision, and when I try to explain the situation, they still can't comprehend the magnitude of harm she was inflicting on our children and my new family. I know in my heart that the best thing for my children was to let her adopt them so I wouldn't be blamed for their problems, and they wouldn't be constantly taught how to hate me. It has been almost a year now and I still have no regrets. My family and my 1 year old daughter are doing well now that she is out of our lives and I hope my children will some day realize what my ex had done, which is force this situation and the removal of them from my life. You have got to do what is right for you, and I know that you will make the right decision. Just be sure to get a decent lawyer to protect you through this situation. The cost of the lawyer will save you from the potential financial and emotional hardships you will face in court if you don't have decent representation. The guy I would recommend for Marion County is Richard Mann. If you are in a different county, he may still do well for you. If you are in hamilton county, you may be screwed either way.

At 11:00pm on September 23, 2008, Dazed And Confused said…: ad me as your friend. Dude the deck looks awsome. just a little fyi, the wife has a restraining order on me just because and has alleged all sorts of things about me thatare not true and hear latly i am just about to throw in th towel. i want to have a paternity test done because for as much as i love my children i have doubts about my kids being mine. when the X and i would get in fights she would always say that she should haave married this guy named dave. and just to show how she is i had a friend over one night to sit by a fire and they went inside he went to call his wife and she went in to check on our kids and after 30 minutes of being by the fire by myself i went in to see what was going on and there they were F@#@#n....... so now you know